Dear Peter:

My 93-year-old mother doesn’t suffer from dementia, but is so mean to me. How do I make her happy while caring for her? I’ve been sober for 6 years, and she makes me want to start drinking again.  Terri in Texas

Dear Terri

Your responsibility is not to make your mother happy, but to work your sobriety program. Your mother can get happy in the same shoes she gets mad in! Your responsibility is to call your sponsor and continue staying sober. If you lose your sobriety, your mother gets a drunk caregiver and that will make all of it worse.

Call your sponsor and go to a meeting.