By Caregivers, For Caregivers
Pushing back against the isolation
Pushing back against the isolation Due to Covid-19, the world discovered what caregivers already knew: isolation...
When judging yourself as a caregiver harshly, be fair and use this criteria as well.
When judging yourself as a caregiver harshly, be fair and use this criteria as well. As a caregiver, think about all...
Caring for Abusive Father Causes Son to Revert To Childhood Trauma.
My father was an abusive alcoholic for years. Now, he’s had a stroke and requires extensive care. Sadly, he still drinks. I’m 52 with a wife and kids, but every time I’m around him I feel like I’m a 9-year-old terrified kid again. How do I deal with this? Bill in Indiana
Over the course of my wife’s nearly thirty years as an amputee, we’ve learned amazing things about the human body, including phantom-limb pain. Amputees can often feel the pain of a limb long since removed.
Are you a caregiver who lives in the “…wreckage of your future?” Over the course of my wife’s nearly thirty years as...
Dear Peter: The Bible tells us honor our mother and father, but my alcoholic (and now disabled) father was physically abusive and is still verbally abusive. David, in TX.
While one of ten commandments is to indeed honor your father and mother, it does mean that we must honor alcoholism, addiction, or any other type of mental impairment that leads to inappropriate acts. Sometimes honoring them means not engaging with their destructive behavior.
Dear Peter: Would you do it again? Chip, feeling reflective
As caregivers, we struggle enough with reality, so living in the hypothetical is never recommended. That said, I love the way I play the piano now, I love the way I write, and I am grateful for the ways I’m able to speak to fellow caregivers …
Dear Peter: Why does she go through bouts of Mania? Ramona, feeling overwhelmed.
Mania stems from a variety of sources. Some psychological some physiological. Step one is to make sure your loved one’s physician is aware of this behavior and ask for an action plan.
Dear Peter: How do we deal with doctors & their offices when you express what the issue is & no one responds to your concerns? Debbie struggling with doctors.
Doctors, and their offices, usually bustle and are often tied to a timer. As caregivers, our hearts and bodies are weary, and it adds greater frustration when we feel overlooked or dismissed. Particularly if we busted our rears to take off time from work and struggle to get our loved one there on time
Dear Peter: How do I not become so angry? Leslie, with clenched fist.
Sometimes anger is warranted. If your anger is directed at an impaired loved one’s behavior, however, your anger can be futile. How do you get angry with a disease? In cases where your loved one is behaving poorly and even inappropriately